I have quite a few friends who struggle to do things for themselves; they are always putting their kids/husband first, which is wildly important & makes them amazing, loving, selfless women, but there has to be more than that.
The best moms in the world love their children fiercely and put them first, but they also take care of themselves. Spend the money, take the nap, go to lunch, eat the last piece of candy, etc. Whatever they need to be fulfilled, they DO.
Not long ago I was one of those moms who never did anything for myself; I felt guilty if I even thought about going to dinner with friends, or making the kid take a "rest" even if they weren't sleeping, or considered buying myself a new shirt instead of saving it for something they might need. I meet all of their needs, and then some - they truly have an outpouring of love from me. I am not talking about neglecting their needs to meet my own. I am talking about meeting my own needs, taking care of me, so I can be the best mom to them.
When I was neglecting my own needs I was depleted. My depression took over & I didn't see Stephy anymore. I got lost as a mom. I was a good mommy, but not a great mommy because I didn't have any separation.
I am a firm believer in filling my cup! We all need to be pampered, loved, and adored -- and sometimes that means that we buy the shirt, eat the chocolate, do the yoga, watch the movie, go to dinner, or whatever it may be for ourselves.
For me it was joining the Coaching community of Beachbody -- it cost some money to start up because I wanted to buy a workout program & Shakeology with it. I wanted to go all-in and fully commit myself to "Finding Me", losing the baby weight, recognizing the woman in the mirror, & learning to love myself again. I spent the money, did the workouts, ate healthily, & began coaching others, but something even more glorious happened -- I became a part of this loving community of "cup fillers" and "dream chasers". I was surrounded by women who weren't shaming me for putting myself first, but we applaud each other, lift one another up, and help each other be better moms/sisters/friends/women/people.
Becoming a coach has made me better in every aspect of my life & I am so glad I am on this journey to find happiness and that I'm able to help others along the way.
So, YOU out there reading this -- it is time to pick yourself. Fill your cup & fall in love with you all over again, or for the very first time. Whether its contacting me to be your coach, or looking into becoming a coach yourself, or if it's even deciding to take a bubble bath & lock the door, JUST DO IT!
Take the leap & become the best version of yourself.
I'm a carb eater, jesus lover, stay at home mommy, faithful wife, depression survivor, lifestyle coach, & make up fanatic.