I have never been more excited than I am right now for one of my groups! THIS is where happiness can be found!
As a stay at home mommy who was once in the deep darkness of depression I can personally testify of the importance of putting one's self first! It is a hard skill to master, but with time it can be done. So many of us think it is selfish to meet our own needs, but it isn't. I promise. I'm not saying to forget about your responsibilities or throw caution to the wind. No. I am saying do something for you! Spend a little money on yourself. Take a bubble bath with the door locked. Go to bed early [or stay up late if that's your thing]. Go out to dinner with friends. Lay alone in the grass & read your favorite book. Make a gourmet meal that your kids wont like.
This doesn't mean you don't LOVE the ones you're with & your role as a wife/mommy/daughter/friend, or that you are neglecting to take care of them - it means you are taking care of you so you can be better. Better for them, but better for YOU as well.
I have clients who have told me they haven't gotten their haircut in over a year because there's no time, their kids need haircuts first, they don't care how they look because no one ever sees them anyway, & many more excuses.
Guys!! That breaks my heart. Ok, sure -- getting a haircut might not be at the top of your list, but SOMETHING is. What is it? You have to learn to do it. We NEED to take care of ourselves.
How many of us have said something like:
I don't eat healthy because I just graze off of my kid's plates.
It takes too much energy to cook for me & them.
I don't wear makeup because no one cares.
What if I try something new and I fail?
I'll make time for me after the laundry is done.
Once everyone else is satisfied, I might have energy left for me.
I don't have the time to do something for just me.
I can't spend money on myself, what if my kids need something?
It doesn't matter what I look like, I'm always alone with my hair in a ponytail anyway.
I can't remember the last time I read a book -- not a bedtime story.
I don't even know who I am outside of being a wife/mom.
I envy people that have time to ______.
Y'all, we have time for what we MAKE time for. Make time for YOU!!! We have to learn the skills to dare to put ourselves first. I'm not claiming to know everything or be able to "cure" anything. I am just a mommy who has learned to fill my cup & I am eager to share my knowledge with others.
Click the picture above or go to my Self Love tab & get started on putting yourself first.
If not now, then when?
I'm a carb eater, jesus lover, stay at home mommy, faithful wife, depression survivor, lifestyle coach, & make up fanatic.